adding to the list of new things....

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hey hey.

so, i can't really call either of these two things "new" but i haven't done either of them in quite some time. i started going back to the gym tuesday, and am working on doing my own hair. yeah, no biggie to either right? lol wrong. i can be soooo lazy. im not one for motivating to do things, but once i get going, im pretty much a force.

after i got out of work on tuesday, i took my tail back to the gym. it felt GREAT!! i don't know what i was thinking, by stopping. im wasting my money by not showing up, and wasting money isn't something im fond of. im not sure how to use the machines, so i pretty much stick to the eliptical, and then do a lot of stretching. yesterday, i forgot my hair tie in the car and was NOT walking all the way back to get it. of course, no love from the black girl behind the counter in finding me a rubberband *unappologetic blank stare*, so i let in hang. by the time i got home, my hair was crimpled and poking in all the wrong directions. i sat down on the floor in front of the mirror and flat ironed my dry hair section by section. woke up the next am, looked as if i hadn't hit the gym at all. YAY. ME. =)

my next new little project is going to be researching hair care. i need to find out the best way for me to take care of my hair, on my own. the girl that does my hair is great, but if i can do it myself, why the heck not??!! the main reason behind me doing my own hair is simple. no one will take care of me the way i can (a personal life mantra of mine). in the interest of time, my stylist has used odee amounts of heat, and skimpped on time under the dryer with conditioner on. if i can get my act together, and learn to get my hair healthy again, on my own, ill be a happy lil camper. i've been relaxing my hair since i was in the 7th grade. i still remember going to get my hair done that day at the mall. i thought i was too cute lol. anywho, i've considered going natural a few times, but, i think i'll try to revive what i've got going first. currently, i have relaxed hair, with blonde highlighs. im a fan of health over length. i've been contemplating a cute short cut like this

im thinking ill start with something like this, then move to the short halle cut..... idk. im VERY indecisive. but, im thinkin, baby steps. if i do the megan good one below, theres room to move. but if i take the halle jump, im stuck, like it or not. here's the megan cut im contemplating

idk guys. what are your thoughts??

any hair blogs in mind? any suggestions? advice? talk to me boos!

did you hear bout Dana? i heard she........

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*oh hey ya'll*

hahahahhaahahahaha!!! i love family guy, and i say this to my dogs EVERY time i walk into my home. lol

anywho, this is probablly going to be a #nobodycares post, but i've got some time to kill. work with me. this is going to be about me (like every other post, go figure). only difference, it's a bit more random. i guess a "did you know" kinda thing. why not right?

i was born and raised in queens, ny. went to private schools my entire life. graduated with my bachelors in communications from Adelphi University. i love dancing. my mom is a dance teacher (as well as a school teacher). so, growing up, my mom had me in dance school. unlike a lot of these kids today, i didn't have a choice. from about two, i was up and at the dance school with her, dancin my lil tail off. fortunate for me, she wouldn't let me stop, and i loved it (thanks ma). i was given the opportunity to give back, and taught classes to the younger girls for quite some time (i miss it to no end :( my babies were/are awesome lil dancin machines!). i recently stopped when i started bartending. diggin that a lot too lol. my personal fave part is mixing new drinks. i love when i'm given that opportunity. i just love being able to be creative.

i have two dogs, Binxi and ChuChi. i complain about them for at least 3hrs out of everyday, but i love them all 24.

i have a lil brother. he's my favorite, and only blood brother. he's kinda big now, and is a junior in college.

i am blessed to have both my mom and dad, and all four of my grandparents with me. i have a bunch of AWESOME aunts and uncles, who i thank god for all the time. they may think i don't listen to em, but i do. i just can't let you guys know. duh. lol i also have a ton of cousins. all of whom i love and appreicate. i never see any of them as much as i would like to, and im closer to some than others, but, ya'll are still stuck with me so LEARN TO DEAL!

i love shoes. i love shopping for shoes. im not big on sneakers. at all. i also love clothes. like, how many girls don't? did i mention i love shoes? notice i didn't say i love fashion. i urks me when someone says this and then can't tell you who karl largefeld is or who the creative director of chanel is (hint, hint, followed by a long *blank stare*). i think i can honestly say, i enjoy fashion as much as the next stylish young lady, but definitely couldn't tell you anything of actual importance. however, if i didn't have any financial responsibilites, i'd go back to undergrad and be a fashion major. you know learn about textiles, sewing, pattern drafting, HISTORY of fashion, etc. little known fact: my senior thesis was on fashion.
shopping will forever be my battle with the dollar. im too old not to have savings, but uuuugggh shopping i love you so!! there's always something i want, and i seriously have a small (really, nothing too terrible.....?) problem with NOT getting what i want when it is fully within my means.

whatelse can i bore you guys with.....
oh, duh. i love music. all types of music. little known fact, i played the clarinet for 10 years. NYC honor band and all. i WHOLEHEARTEDLY feel that life is better with a pair of earphones in (when odee loud speakers would be unacceptable). im one of those weirdos that picks songs that would be on my "life soundtrack" lol. currently, my artists on constant repeat are miguel, bruno mars, j. cole, cee lo, kid cudi & wiz khalifa. (feel like a musical post is comming soon.....)

i actully like being alone. not like, in the creepy sense, but i think i'm GREAT company, so why not enjoy my own company? i don't find the need to have an entourage to do everything, or a boyfriend to "check in" with. i actually enjoy sitting on my couch watching a movie, by myself, or even going to the movies alone (i hate when people talk during dialogue -_- ). i'm not saying i don't like having company, but, i don't think it's always necessary. i'm single, not broken. i think i'm gona stay this way (not necessarily by choice) until i can better understand myself, as myself. no need to have someone else confuse me, i do a grand job of that on my own. i don't think i'll be single forever, and am starting to be able to deal with letting god adjust that as he sees fit, when he sees fit.

ok, i think im even getting bored of myself now lol
anything you want me to go into deeper, or anything i didn't mention, go ahead and ask. i'm sure i'll have more time to kill again soon.
=)

What are YOUR thoughts?

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hey readers :)
i won't venture to guess how many of you there are, but i have a special kinda love for all of you <3 :) <3

this post in particular is going to be short and sweet (very much like me *wink*) what are your thoughts? comments? suggestions? questions? what do you want to see? what if anything don't you want to see? have you enjoyed my posts so far? i've had many of you message me on facebook and tell me how you feel, but, here's a post specifically for you to leave any general comments.
i appreciate your feedback on fb, but i'd prefer you leave it here, on my blog. i enjoy blogging, whether or not you guys leave comments, but who wants to talk to an empty room? lol so, here's my DIRECT open invitation.

talk to me!!
=)

let's try something new..... again

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ok, so i was recently inspired by a friend (thanks shari) to get off my ass n travel! after hearing her run down of planned trips for the year, i realized, i needed to get on my ish already lol. im 25, and haven't really been anywhere. i've done Wisconsion for a busniess trip, ATL for fam, FL for Disney (twice) Norfolk, VA, Charlotte, NC, Jersey which doesn't really count as a New Yorker, lol, aaaaand that's pretty much it! oh i went to Canada once lol on n Boston n PA n DC n MD. ok so I've been a few places, but nothing really exciting. I think you get what I mean. No vacation destinations. I want to go jet skiing, snorkeling, hiking, all the touristy stuff. i have no shame in that. i don't need to look cool, like "im here every summer." i just want to do it all and have a safe, fun time in the process.

so far my only REAL hold ups are funds and friends. I've always been worried that I can't afford a nice trip and then who am i going to go with? i started with my first roadblock: funds. i decided to do a little research. there are plenty of great package deals to go all the places i want to go! i've been missing out lol. next, friends. i have a lot of associates and accquaintes, but not everyone is for everything. i love people for what they bring to my life, but that doesn't mean i can just pick up and travel with just anyone! if you really know me, you know that i pretty much suck with keeping in contact. so for the people whom i haven't known for 20 plus or 10 plus years, i don't even know how they TRUTHFULLY feel about me. friends like that (whom you've known for half your life) you can go a year or few without speaking to, and pick up with no love lost. i don't call anyone, nor am i the greatest at returning calls. its never anything personal, im just more of a loner. i like people, and i think about a lot of people, i just don't like talking all the time (which for someone who sure nuff can talk your ear off, is quite the anomaly, lol). i guess i should blog about that too.... "friends".

anywho, i decided, i'd try to go somewhere every other month, and i'd travel alone to some of my destinations, and meet up with people i know when i get there. first on my list of destinations...... New Orleans for Mardi Gras!!!!

This trip, i will be making alone. i've been invited to stay with a friend that lives down there, so i figured, why not go when it'd be the most expensive to stay? Mardi Gras it is lol. i also have another friend who should be in the area at the time, so i definitely won't be alone during my trip. my time off has been approved at work, and I'm booking my flight first week of February! SO HYPE!

next is Vegas in May!

i def can't run around Vegas alone, so I have to wrangle up an entourage. i think my biggest issue is my fear of the unknown. what I DO know, is that you never really know someone until you have to live with them, or until you're in a stressful situation with them. I think my issue is i don't want to invite someone to go, who will then make the trip anything less than enjoyable. i like to spend. but i'll spend within my means. i don't want to go with a prudish miser. im not your mom. im not paying your way. nor do i want to stay in all day/night. i also don't want to go with a loosey goosey who'll have half the guys down there with us in our room. you'd be surprised who does what, and i don't want that surprise. so, so far, i've asked two cousins and one friend. hopefully they will come. this should be an awesome trip. strip club at 8am anyone?? lol

in July..... my first cruise!!!

this (like all my other trips, lol) im VERY excited about!! i'll be taking this one with one of my best friends Alicia and her family. it's going to stop through Mexico, Belize, and Honduras. *SNAP!!!* i've always heard great things about cruises, and i ALWAYS have a great time with Alicia and her fam. my thing is, i've always been kinda afraid of the whole cruise thing because of Titanic. laugh if you want, but it actually happened, it wasn't a story based on fiction. it is truth people. jokes aside, it really does weird me out but, not enough for me to pass on what i know will be a great trip.

in september.... Miami!

I really wanted to avoid going down there when i knew all the hood was gona be there (who wants to feel like you're chillin in Brooklyn with palm trees, when u can really go to BK for free?), but the price is right, and I'm getting the Monday off for Labor day as it is. So far, I'm taking this trip alone, and meeting up with two of my friends when i get there. i haven't seen both of these chicks in sooo long, and that alone is gona make for odee amazing times. i plan to do the touristy thing during the last couple of days, or the first couple of days.... prob the last. spa, areas of intrest close by, a wee bit of shopping, swimming with dolphins, that kind of thing. but, partiying n hangin w my girls when i get there is gona be uber fun :) :)

so far, those are the trips i mentally have planned so far. the only thing i can see stopping me is funds. i HAVE TO SAVE!! that means i can't randomly pick up n blow money on random/reckless crap! i don't want to really shop again until i have to buy an outfit or two for my trip. i have plenty nuff shoes n clothes where i don't NEED anything. aside from unexpected expenses, i don't see why i can't make this happen. i just have to budget.

so this is my plea to you....

SEND ME YOUR ENCOURAGEMENT!!

every once in a while, check in and see if im on my monthly target to saving for the next trip. have i requested the days off? did i book my accomodations? all that jazz.

i plan on doing a vision board across from my bed so that every day i have a reminder of what im actually saving for. there's nothing like motivation. i know i can do this.


DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS? ANY SURE FIRE WAYS TO SAVE? EXPERIENCE WITH VISION BOARDS? SUGGESTIONS FOR PLACES TO STAY? WHERE TO FIND THE BEST DEALS? ANYTHING I SHOULD DEFINITELY AVOID? TALK TO ME!

LEAVE COMMENTS OR EMAIL ME AT TheVixinExperience@gmail.com

happy thoughts....

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in an attempt to brighten my mood and restore my belief that i WILL indeed find the right man for me, its time for another upbeat post!!! this one is gona be fun. im going to show you guys what i think some perfect dates are (giggles). im such a girl sometimes, and am a romantic at heart (no matter how cynical i may be at times). i like all the mushy gushy feelings stuff, but only at the right time, with the right person. i can't stress how important timing is. the wrong timing can RUIN what could potentially be a great match up. i tend to keep a lot of things to myself. i don't like sharing my feelings n stuff because i wholeheartedly believe that's the quickest route to getting your feelings hurt. i hate the part of the game where feelings come up in the discussion. really, i do. ESPECIALLY when im not even sure how i feel about the person yet! well, more on that in another post. here are my great date ideas....

.a romantic nature get away.
you would probably never guess, but i love the outdoors. i like boating (canoeing and row boating actually), LOVE swimming, i can deal with fishing as long as i don't have to touch the fish, and i can even deal with sleeping outdoors (go figure). creepy serial killer vibe to to side, a secluded cabin on the water would be ideal. just me, the boo, and the stars. i love stars. like, could just sit and stare for an hour. and im not the best at just sitting still for an hour lol. i think its the idea of being able to do everything together and really get to know eachother, without anything permanent. playing house essentially. cooking together, wine by the fireplace, picnics, skinny dipping, laying on the the grass and talking. all the fun and corny stuff you can think of. no phones. no computers. just the company of each other. and maybe Binxi n ChuChi lol

.shopping spree.
no explanation necessary. i love spending money. im even better at it when its not mine :)

.all day date.
this can be a tough one. the chemistry DEFINITELY has to be there. you can't just spend the day with just anybody. on MY day date, i'd start w/ everyone's fave ihop :0)
next, i'd do the zoo or the museum. personally, i love the museum of natural history. the dinosaurs, mummies, natural artifacts. i love it. after a few hours at the zoo or museum i'd be ready for dinner. currently im hungry for some pasta, so i'd say an Italian restaurant would be awesome. but actual real Italian food. like, homemade. freshly prepared. not olive garden.
after dinner, perhaps a comedy show and drinks. there's nothing like a good laugh. a good laugh is always better when shared with someone you care about.
after the show, truthfully i'd want to do somethin like go to the top of the roc or a walk through a park. ive never been to the top of the roc. as long as i've lived in NY (all 25 of my years), there are SO many things i've never done and seen that are right at my disposal. after a view like that, and a long day together, it's def time for bed 8;0)

.a quiet night in.
if you haven't noticed a pattern, you're kinda dense. lol i love spending time with the guy i care about. i really DON'T bleed ice! i just act like it a lot lol well, for my quiet night in, a home cooked meal is in order. i don't really like cooking, but i do it pretty well for someone who rarely does it. after dinner, i'd go with a game. i whop some ass in trouble. lol cards, video games, doesn't matter. just something that gets the convo and the laughs goin. im pretty competitive, so be prepared for more smack talkin than usual. and also be prepared to give me a great pep talk if i lose lol. after the fun and games, MOVIE TIME!! i love movies. i'd sit through just about anything. i've got a pretty decent collection, netflix, and on demand so it shouldn't be hard to find something we'd both enjoy. i think its a good night when you can end it snuggled up in the arms of someone you enjoy spending time with. <3

All I need in this life of sin....is me and my fashion

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ok, so im not always in a sad mood. i figured it was about time for an upbeat post lol

ok, i love fashion. shoes, in particular are my weakness. i spent some time compiling a look i'd LOVE to have.... (one day, when i can afford it). i think i have great style. it'd be even greater if i could afford a seamstress and actually own all the looks i think up lol. i'd prob say charlotte and carrie from sex and the city have styles as close to mine that i can think of examples of. i almost cried after seeing some of charlottes outfits in the satc2 movie. true story. anywho, here's a classic look i'd slay if i could afford it.

here's the breakdown:
Dress: Gucci
Scarf: Hermes
Handbag: Louis Vuitton
Shoes: Christian Louboutin
Blazer: not sure, but the pic was the closest to what i had in my head. the back (imh) would have a double layered ruffle in the back; like in a tuxedo cut
Braclet & Anklet: Sue Tsai
Earrings: loveknotearrings.org not sure if thats the line or what, but i love that they're so detailed

for the record, it took a hell of a lot for me to figure out how to get that pic up there. its actually a screen shot from powerpoint that i had to swindle a way into a pic. not sure how i pulled it off, but im damn proud of me. i really can be a smart girl..... lol

this was so much fun! so, more to come!

what do you think? what would you change or add?

my gift to the world....?

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you'd think after four years of college, and 15 prior years of private schooling, i'd have a clue as to what i wanted to do with my life. as stated in my first post the longest journey begins with a single step, i grew up with grandious ideas of what i'd be doing by the time i turned 25. besides living on my own and being a college graduate, i feel like, i haven't done much. currently, i have two jobs -- 9-5 as an office worker (im a backorder coordinator for a high end appliance distributor) and i bartend weekends. i think im a good, and hard worker (so do my employers). but i have NO desire to stay in the field i am currently in. at all. i couldn't give a flying crap about appliances really. so that brings me to the unanswered question of, "what DO i want to do with my life?" what will my gift to the world be?

when i think on it, dance, fashion, and helping kids are the things in my life that bring me the greatest joy. i feel i can lose myself in them and find happiness, excitement, and satisfaction. however, i know i don't know enough about dance or fashion yet to make enough to sustain myself now. and i don't have the patience yet to deal w/ kids 24/7 as career. back to running into them there walls. at least its a start.... maybe i can teach fashionable childern the joys of dance? lol

i am fully aware that i can not continue to do the same things, and expect different results (i.e. my first blog post, again lol). somethings gotta give. maybe i should take up trying new things again?

whatever it is i end up doing, its going to be a big deal. i feel like anything else would be a waste of my life.

"the most absurd and reckless aspirations have sometimes led to extraordinary success."
~ vauvenargues

"the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do."
~ steve jobs
do any of you know what your passion is? how did you figure it out? are you living your passion now? any suggestions?

why do i always fall for THAT guy

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they say opposites attract. but damn, can i just find a guy safely in the middle???



i was always your typical "good girl." went to private school, cute lil uniform skirt, did well in school, well mannered, the kind of young lady any guy could bring home to meet the fam. so of course that meant my ass liked the guys i knew better than to bring home. smh woe is me right? lol growing up, i always ended up with a "bad boy". it seemed like that was all i attracted. they liked my polished look, i liked their rough edges. i grew up and kinda got over that. i got over having a "type". met a guy that was the total opposite of what i'd been used to. though i'd finally hit jackpot. he was an asshole too -_-

now im into my "real" adult years and i find that a lot of my friends are getting married and starting families. yeah, a lot of them are having kids too, but that has nothing to do with the weight of water. i can get pregnant tomorrow. but i can't get married tomorrow. you get what i mean? i've always been quite the romantic. i won't say hopeless, but a romantic yet and still. i'm convinced there is a man perfect for me out there. he's not necessarily a perfect man, but perfect for me. HUGE difference.

i find that im most attracted to men that are out of my reach. the one guy in the room who pays me no mind, the one guy who doesn't reciprocate my affections, and even worse, the guy i know i have NOOOO business dealing with; guys just up to no good period (i just can't shake my attraction to bad boys). i also find that either im only attracting guys that are only interested in physical relationships, or immature guys whos better judgement just flies out the door once u invite them in (also y i just don't bother inviting guys over anymore). its like i can't win. you start talking to a guy. he seems cool, then he disappears, or can't keep his hands to himself after you meet up, or he is in some ridiculously unappealing situation that shadows perilously over my better judgement. i just can't.

a few weeks ago, all of this hit me hard. i began to wonder, "is it me? what am i doing that im attracting such negative 'relationship' energy?" "why me?" i think im a pretty great person, and have a lot to offer to not only a relationship, but a friendship as well. so wtf? now, pause the story. i have had some "good" men in my life. guys i could bring home. but im not attracted to them! one way or another, i find something in them that wont let me take it past friends. the guys that would make "great husbands" don't quite interest me as boyfriends (twisted, i know). and the guys that i'm interested in making boyfriends tend not to work out in the long run. im hitting walls in every direction.

i recently heard about a new blog The Single Year. this young lady is giving up men, dating, and sex all together. her plan is very well drawn out and detailed. check her blog out. awesome layout and set up. part of me thinks she's nuts. the larger part of me admires her courage i guess. im not quite sure exactly what her motivation behind it is, like what is the whole story behind the idea. i've told myself i was giving up plenty of times. that i was just gona "do me" or that i'd give what's his name another try, just because i didn't want to be alone. im all confused. i know going back to an ex isn't the answer. they're an ex for a reason, and my patience nor my tolerance level has changed since i last checked. but there's always the "when you stop looking, love will find you" approach. that never really lasts long with me. my issue is, i never really know if i can consider myself looking in the first place. i mean, the fact is, i spend the most of my time working. if im not at the 9-5, im at the bar on most of my weekend nights. i meet plenty of guys at the bar, but im not one for beginning a serious relationship with a man i meet at a strip club (i bartend there. and i ONLY bartend). i have nothing against strip clubs. personally, i think they're fun. just not where i see finding the love of my life. but oh do they try. for a flirt and smart ass like me, im never at a loss for a target. im just never impressed by any of them. *sigh*

i tell myself i need to get out. how else am i going to find "the one?" but with whom? i can't run the streets of ny alone. yeah, there are some things i can do alone, but w my schedule, im not free until late evenings, and that just screams set up when u go at it alone at that hour. i don't really have female friends, least not ones i hit the streets w, and going with a male friend pretty much defeats the purpose. i hit yet another wall. this time, the note posted on the wall reads "work on giving back to to world, and the world will give back to you" (made that up myself, thank you very much). and then the question of my next blog arises: what is my gift to the world?

new year, new me?

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happy 2011. -_-

i don't like new years and the hype surrounded by them. a few years ago, i had what was probably my worst new years and they've never been the same since. they've always been accompanied by some type of disappointment. such is life. so, every new years, im reminded of such and im in a funky mood.

yet another thing that bothers me about the whole new years season is everyones comments/promises/revelations about the prior year, and the year to come. in my opinion, EVERY DAY is a new start. every hour, every minute, every second. if something is important enough to you to wholeheartedly want to change, you'd start right away. there is NO need to wait until january 1st to start being on time, lose weight, cut off negative people, concentrate more on yourself, spend more time with your friends, etc. what's wrong with now? what was wrong with november 26th? why set the bar so high and expect that all of a sudden, what you couldn't accomplish over the entire course of the previous year, you can magically find success doing again on this day in particular?

i rang in my new year, cranberry juice wasted, mopping my floor, bed unmade, with two bags full of clothes that needed to be washed. this doesn't mean ill never have another hangover, that my floors will always be clean, and that ill always have a sloppy bed with clothes that need to be washed!

i know im not perfect. sadly, i tend to remind myself more than i'd like to. but the things about me i want to change, i know aren't things that are going to change overnight. i know for damn sure that starting january 1st doesn't add any juice to the cause. most of the examples i listed above as "resolutions" (sans losing weight) are things that i'd like to do. but of course, in true dana fashion, im in no rush lol. my personal struggles with being on time as some of you may know are an ongoing battle (people tend to think that they're bad with time until they meet me). lol im pretty good with cutting people off (as some others of you may know :/ ), but there's still room on the chopping block. on the flip, im also pretty bad at continuing positive relationships. im not great at staying in contact.... i tend to be one of those awesome people who you just all of a sudden wonder how they're doing cause you haven't heard from them in a while lol

*sigh*
all in all, we all have things we'd like to work on, but stop kidding yourself. its a journey. realize that every breath you take is another chance at a new beginning. start treating your life as such. i know i try to everyday.


I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestioned ability of a man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.
~ Henry David Thoreau